From Thea: I was so delighted when Virna DePaul graciously agreed to come visit on my blog. I’ve been lucky to have several visits with Virna, at book signings and at RWA last year in New York. Virna’s wonderful, and I know you’ll enjoy her blog post today!
Virna is generously offering a giveaway this week. Details are at the end of the post!
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All Of Me by Virna DePaul
Thank you to Thea for having me as a guest on her blog today. I first met Thea when we were doing a book signing together. I’d already read Dragon Bound and loved it. Turns out Thea’s not only uber-talented but is gracious and fun to hang with! J Now on with my post…
I’m sitting next to my husband at Starbucks writing this blog post and he’s just pulled a balloon out of his pocket to show the people next to him a magic trick. My hubby’s always prepared to entertain and amaze someone, be it a friend, stranger, or hotel clerk he’s trying to charm into giving him a free room upgrade. He’s done stand up comedy, can make animals and flowers out of balloons, and once guest-hosted a radio show. He’s also the kind of guy who can do any sport decently. But magic seems to be his true calling. He can work his outgoing personality and humor along with some amazing slight of hand. People are drawn to him, especially kids.
So what does this have to do with me and writing? Well, writing is complicated. Writers are complicated. My husband reminds me how multi-faceted people (even non-writers) are. During the day, he’s a criminal prosecutor and sometimes he can come off a bit…well…let’s say…strong-willed and intimidating. Most people don’t know there’s so much more to him. A whole other side that, while it might seem contrary to his true personality, actually complements it. Imagine if he had to be the serious prosecutor all the time. That part of him is important and valuable, but he deserves some joyful moments, too. In fact, I think my hubby’s lighter side reveals his true nature the most.
On the other hand, I’m quite the opposite of my hubby in many ways. Like a lot of writers, I’m an introvert. I’m shy. I don’t like making small talk. Half the time the day goes by and I’m still in pajamas and have to rush to school to pick up my kids while avoiding eye contact with anyone because I look like a disaster—maybe if we don’t make eye contact, they won’t notice?
I like spinning scenarios in my head and massaging them on the screen until it “feels” right. This is why I, unlike my husband, didn’t enjoy being a criminal prosecutor. We did the exact same work, yet I could see how he flourished on the job while I felt like I was dying a slow death. I don’t like conflict or being put on the spot. I hate having someone figuratively punch me in the gut and then having to remain poised enough to come up with an articulate response to said sucker punch instead of crying or yelling the way I really want to. Instead of doing the latter, I usually took the “silent” approach. Most people thought I was professional and strong, but really I was mostly distressed and flummoxed.
Yet now I write. I put my work out into the world for people to ignore, read, praise or trash. I market myself and network at conferences and teach workshops. Voluntarily. And all this seems so contrary to my introverted nature…but yet it’s not. For the most part, readers and writers are connected by a passion for the written word, so I feel more at home with them. Despite being an introvert, I love challenges and I love making true solid connections with others. I love helping others reach an “a ha” moment, whether it’s about the craft of writing or about some issue they’ve been struggling with in their lives. I really, really love providing an outlet for others to escape their problems, one that leaves them feeling empowered and hopeful.
When we’re at Starbucks or other public places, my hubby usually shines. In a crowd, I’m quiet and might come off as standoffish. Yes, that’s part of me, but it’s not all of me. Like the characters I love to read about and the characters I endeavor to write about, I’m multi-faceted. It takes a while to get to know me but when you do, I like to think I offer something unique and special. I feel the same way about my books.
Thank goodness for the variety of people and personalities in the world. Thank goodness for the different writers and stories and genres. There’s something for every mood and personality, even the most complicated ones.
How are you or someone close to you more than meets the eye? I’m giving away a signed copy of Chosen By Blood, Book 1 in the Para-Ops Novels, to one commenter.
**Giveaway ends at 12 noon MDT on Friday, April 13th**
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Bio: Virna DePaul is a former criminal prosecutor and now national bestselling author of the Para-Ops Novels, including her latest release, Chosen By Sin. Virna also writes for Harlequin Romantic Suspense (It Started That Night, May 2012) and HQN (Shades Of Desire, June 2012). Her novella, Molly Wants A Hero, is included in the upcoming “Love Bites” charitable anthology with other pet-themed stories by New York Times Bestsellers Lori Foster and Brenda Jackson, and bestselling authors Catherine Mann and Jules Bennett. Finally, Virna has indie published several contemporary romance novels and novellas, including the Red-Hot Cops erotic romances under the name Ava Meyers. Find out more at www.virnadepaul.com